How many times have you caught yourself agreeing to do something you don’t want to do? Whether it’s signing up for the PTA, reading over your needy colleague’s CV or hosting a family event, sometimes we all bow to the pressure of being a people pleaser instead of honouring ourselves and saying ‘no’. In this episode of the Oh For Food’s Sake podcast, we give you tips on how to stop people pleasing.
How many times have you caught yourself agreeing to do something you don’t want to do? Whether it’s signing up for the PTA, reading over your needy colleague’s CV or hosting a family event, sometimes we all bow to the pressure of being a people pleaser instead of honouring ourselves and saying ‘no’. In this episode of the Oh For Food’s Sake podcast, we give you tips on how to stop people pleasing.
We list the signs that you’re a people pleaser and explore why we feel obliged to people please, a trait especially common in women. We delve into the overlap between empaths, people pleasers and perfectionists and talk about how your people pleasing might come off to others, particularly those closest to you. Then we give our top tips to stop being a people pleaser and start living your life your way.
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Timestamps
[0:47] It’s time to properly talk about people pleasing!
[2:52] Our definition of being a people pleaser
[3:54] Other signs that you’re a people pleaser
[5:35] The overlap between empaths and people pleasers
[7:58] Oooh, sorry! Apologising and agreeing with others to smooth tricky situations over
[10:15] People pleasing is really tiring, trust us!
[12:21] Why do some people become people pleasers?
[15:20] Perfectionism and people pleasing
[16:40] How other people perceive your people pleasing tendencies
[20:55] Why mothers are particularly affected by people pleasing
[21:50] Don’t say yes, take a breath and say “I’ll get back to you”
[26:02] Practise saying no
[26:35] Think about your long-term goals
[27:55] What kind of relationship do you have with the people you spend time with?
[28:55] Reforming people pleasers of the world, unite!
Links and Resources
Our previous episode on perfectionism
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